Emotional pain is a kind of psychological pain that comes from non-physical sources. It could be original from an insult or hurtful words from someone else or as a result of grief, regrets or losing of love ones. In some cases, it can be a result of some underlying mental disorder such as anxiety or depression.

We are emotional creatures that are born to express emotions freely and openly. Somewhere along the way, however, many of us learned to repress emotions, especially those deemed “negative,” in order to fit in, earn love, and be accepted. This was my experience.I grew up in a home where the motto was “Children are to be seen, not heard.” There was little emotional expression allowed, let alone accepted. No one was there to validate or help us process emotions in a healthy way. Anger was met with anger, fear went unacknowledged, and there was plenty of shame to go around. In our lives today, we express all emotions. Parents use to struggle with emotional pain and difficulties. I was lucky and went for counselings.  When those emotions showed up, I often felt overwhelmed and inadequate, ashamed of my failure to be a “good girl.” Another way emotions can show up is when you see someone killed feeling guilty that it was not you that died, and that my dear is self hatred taught at a very young age. We are never enough to deal with life. To deal with some of this emotional stuff from how people are treated. I learned to bury my pain deep inside, feeling I was invisible, ashamed, angry, alone, and unable to even know what it was I needed. Hiding the pain before I even knew I had pain from others and myself, I would pass out from tensions, and had to get needles for serious headaches. I built walls, put on masks, and soldiered on, for better or worse.
In my thirties, faced with growing angst and creeping depression, and anxieties, I was motivated to be the best parent I could be to my children, I began to deal with repressed memories and old emotional residue that has left me suffering from C-PTSD, chronic back pain, sciatica, headaches, and anxiety. I did not blame anyone else, as I just changed me. but then found out other people did not like me changing, making change twice as difficult.
As a child, I hid from the emotional pain, but I learned from delving into worlds of books, music, and academics that made me aware consciously and unconsciously  of who I had become. As an adult, I realized I was strong enough to face it. I wasn’t a little child anymore; I didn’t have to hide. Now I was more mature and had resources. facing my own baggage, that use to overwhelm me and my young brain, and taking on healing, relaxation techniques, breathing exercises, learning and how to be patient with me and others, healing myself had begun. Being honest open about pain, and not worrying about what others thought, was my biggest advantage. I knew I did not mind being alone or chancing a change. The biggest advantage for my life, is I learned to say “NO!”
The truth is, we all hide our emotions occasionally. We pretend, avoid, and deny uncomfortable emotions in an effort of self-preservation, as a defence mechanism. We do this most often with difficult emotions like shame, fear, or anger. When we experience events that emotionally overwhelm us and we’re unable to process what is happening, accept our emotions, and express them through our body and mind, we hide them deep inside us where others can’t see them. And we end up hiding them from ourselves too. Yet, they’re still there in little boxes of pent up feelings, needing expression.Those horrible unexpressed emotions can get trapped in our body,  where they build and fester, draining our energy, leading to burnout, emotional imbalance, and eventually disease. When we chronically repress emotions, we create toxicity in our body, mind, and heart. This unprocessed emotional energy is stored in our organs, muscles, and tissues. It leads to inflammation and chronic health problems, and it undermines our overall well-being.There are steps to expressing unexpressed emotion and the opposite of repression is expression. In order to process our emotional distress and move it through and out of our body, then it will not get stuck inside us. We need to learn to express our emotions in a healthy way, in the body and mind. But first, we need to learn to recognize and accept our feelings as they come and go.Step 1: Recognize (self-awareness)The challenge is to recognize what emotions are, and the feelings that accompany them, feeling your body, mind, soul, and character. This is where mindfulness comes in. The goal is to notice what is happening within our body, accept it, and feel it fully, without judgment. I do make judgments for me, from my perspective as I want to live a moral decent life. God gave me a brain so I use it.
If you’ve ever come across Tara Brach’s teachings on radical acceptance, the practice of Acceptance, Action, Intuition, and Nourishing our selves to health should be beneficial. Acceptance of who you are, “directly de-conditions the habitual ways in which you resist your moment-to-moment experience,” according to Robinson, and John Bradshaw, and a course on Passions by R.C. Solomon, and also from Kathleen Higgins at the Great Course.
Buddhist teachings tell us that human suffering is caused by aversion and resistance to what is happening. Acceptance is liberating, and the practice of acceptance although painful, can teach us to learn to accept ourselves for the sensitive miracles we really are. The moment to moment experiences of adaptability and survival is fascinating. And never run from learning, but run from any violence at all. Acceptance of who we are helps us face any difficulty head on.  with self-compassion and understanding that it will eventually pass. We have to feel it to heal it, and we have to fully experience emotions in order to process and integrate it into our experience, memory bank, into our hippocampus, amygdala, and up to the thalamus through integrating cells at work.
“Include all emotions, and even difficult ones like seeing others abused, or killed, and awareness of our emotions in conscious awareness, is the top guide for level of cognitive understanding with a full body, mind, spirit experience. The genuine acceptance insight, and intuition, gives me freedom and healing.” Compassion, empathy and Love for self and others will add to your experiences and memories in spirit, character, and memories for recall.
My practice is I sit in prayer each day, and do breathing twice a day quietly in my own room. I listen to my own inner goings on. I love learning. I always have a million questions, emotions, imaginings, and am so creative.
What does your body feel like right now? Is there any pressure or tingling? Where? Do you feel heavy, hot, contracted, warm, or cold? What is the texture, weight, and shape of sensations you notice in your body? What emotions are those sensations connected to? Can you breathe into the parts that call your attention? What do those parts of your body want to tell you? What do they want?My eyes are tired, as I have studied two articles today. My back and arms are tired from processing the writing. and it is time to take another break very soon. Self expression is  a process I do openly. My emotions, and feelings need to be expressed to be processed. The goal is to move the energy of emotion through and out the body so we can let it go. This self-expression must be authentic, and open. Remember, true healing occurs when body and mind integrate, so express the emotion on the bodily level first and foremost.Still sitting, ask yourself: What does this emotion you just connected with need from you? What feels right in this moment? What do you need? Maybe you feel the need to cry, scream into a pillow, go for a swim, walk or run, dance it out, hit a punching bag, do some gardening, tapping, yoga or  paint your feelings out, or simply breathe deeply while facing the sun—whatever feels cathartic in that moment, do it. Writing gives my internal world, of what I see and feel, politically and health wise, what it is I am feeling, recalling, seeing, hearing, tasting, touching, and smelling. All sense are for data to adapt and survive our environment. Making sense of what is occurring is what I have been doing for 40 years now.  I have come to the point where I share things publicly with no problems, but expect to be accepted for who I am.
My happenings in my life right now, are barely mine, except that I respond to people who are being abused. What is the biggest source of frustration? My biggest source of frustration is the UNJUST way people are being treated by Politicians world wide. What needs healing, attention, or change? I just am. Take time to slow down and be alone, get out into nature, which I do daily if not raining, and making art, is my painting, food making, ceramics, playing music and listening, while you cook your favourite dinner. I meditate and do my gratitude each day, to cleanse my mind and know where I am going. I meditate, pray, and cleanse my mind and relax my body, take a nap sometimes to restore. I take excellent care of myself and have been awakened to life’s joy and simple pleasures that will nourish your body, mind, and soul. These processes we took in University many years ago when dealing with Stress and Burnout classes. I am so thankful for learning.

MY OWN HEALING, when decided to proceed, helped me be in charge of myself daily as a preventative measure, I prepare in keeping my mind focused on exceptional articles I love to query.  I am a life long learner. Being aware that sharing and writing was therapeutic for myself, I started to share years ago. in relaxation techniques, breathing exercises standing up for myself, and today I trust me and others far better than when young. I know my own abilities, skills, ethics, morals and I know how I Value human life, love, Peace, Harmony and Honouring others lives. Just plain facts of my life.